The heart wants what the heart wants…

Suddenly the door opened and she went into the ballroom hand in hand with her new husband.. she was looking at the crowd searching, hoping, but could not see a thing due to the spot lights and strong lighting. 

They reached into the center of the stage when the lights dimmed and their special song that they spent weeks looking for started playing..  her husband took her into his arms and started slow dancing while wispering the sweetest words any girl would die for..

She starting looking again, searching for him, but couldnt find him.. she did not know if she was sad or relieved that he did not show up.. 

She started thinking about the first time she met him at a meeting almost a year ago.. she thought he was so cute and wondered how he was still single.. meeting after meeting they became closer and closer.. she used to look forward to their meetings and thought of his friendship as one of the things she would cherish forever..

6 months later, he called asking to see her, and when she invited him to a meeting he said that he rathered if they met somewhere else.. they met at a coffee shop after work and she was anxious to know what he wanted.. 

She felt that something was wrong, he looked worried and was not looking her in the eyes.. She asked ”Is everything ok?” He said” We have known each other for some time now and I wanted to ask you something since the first time I saw you but I did not have the courage until now.. would you go out with me?” she didnt know what to say.. she liked him a lot and did not want to loose him as a friend but she knew there were a lot of things that will not make this work.. “I honestly did not see that coming.. I like you, I really do, but I dont feel that way about you.. I hope you would understand and that we can stay friends” She knew that he got hurt, but all he did was smile and say ” I would love to”

And that is how it went, they became the inseparable best friends ever.. they would go to the movies to partied together, plan weekends together, console each other of heartbreak and bad relationships, they were so great people were jelous of them, and some did not believe that there was nothing romantic between them..  of course there were some moments were things could have gone the other way but they did not let it happen and ruin their friendship..

She noticed that things got a bit different when her relationship with her current husband became serious.. he started backing off with the excuse of not wanting to bother he boyfriend.. She so much wanted them to become good friends but for some reason it did not happen.. One of the things that made her love her husband is that he was totally understanding of their relationship and in fact made an effort to be his friend.. She kept calling him and wanting to see him but he kept giving her excuses and when she does see him he acts like a jerk..

It hurt her so much she couldnt stand it, but there was nothing she could do.. she tried and tried but he was not helping.. and then just before she came down the hotel stairs, he sent her a message saying” I was always there for you for three whole years and was able to hide my feelings so perfectly, but this is more than I can handle, I cant see you getting married, its just too much to bear, I love you, and I wish you all the best”

She held in her tears, turned off the mobile, put a smile on her face, and walked toward her husband.. there is nothing she can do now, everything is ruined, what could have she said, that she fell in love with him the moment she saw him, that her heart ached everytime he talked to her about a girl, and that she was in pain that she could talk to him about everything except telling him the three little words she was dying to say? that he means to her more than anything in this world, and that she is doing this for him? They would have never been happy together, there is the age difference, the background, the social life, the religion, everything was different and she knew that it wouldnt have worked out..

She looked into her husbands eyes and smiled thinking, he is a good man and he will make me happy, her mind knew that but her heart, her heart…

When your husband becomes your father..

I dont get it when a female takes her husband’s family name after they are married.. wouldnt that make him her fahter? wouldnt that make her children her siblings?

Why would you change the name that you have been born with? the name of your father and his father?  do they suddenly become disgracing after you get married? you should be proud of the name of the person who raised you well and couldnt wait to to see the day that you get married in that beautiful white dress.. and how do you thank him? you dont use his name anymore..

Also why do they call the parents after the name of their first son and not first child? I know a man who was called abu Zeina for 13 years and then after his son was born people changed it to abu Zaid.. sometimes he does not reply saying he is not used to it he forgets that people are calling him..

maybe its tradition, but what was the person who did it first thinking?

A Message by George Carlin

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways , but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life. We’ve added years to life not life to years. We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We’ve done larger things, but not better things.

We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We’ve conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom.

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

The Confrontation of My Best Friend…

Last week was not a great one so I was happy when my friend invited me over to her place for dinner.. I thought I needed some relaxation and some fun.. the night turned out to be exactly the opposite.. Im not if it was her or if it was me but I never felt that I wanted to leave her place as fast as I did..

It all started when I first entered the house and she jumed at the fact that I am wearing black.. my grandmother has been dead for less than a month and she is furious about me wearing black.. I tried to explain to her that I want to at least wait till its 40 days but she even went m0re crazy by saying “ya salaaaaaaaam, and what difference would it make after 40 days, besides its not your direct parents so I dont know why are you doing this”

Of course I agree with her that if I wore colorful clothes now, after 40 days or after 10 years that would not mean that I am not sad anymore about the loss of my grandmother.. but I just dont feel like it yet, is that too much? and besides people are still visiting us to pay their condolences it would be weird if they saw me in red..

Anyway I decided not to say anything, she is entitled to give her opinion (although I think it was stronger than it should have been) and its up to me to do whatever I want).

Anyway, it seems that she was not done for the night and decided to open another subject that has been bugging her.. She thinks that I am a very aggressive person and I think that there was a hidden message that I am not a friendly person..

Is saying whats on your mind considered aggressive these days? Its true that If one of my friends buys something or gets a weird hair cut I just say that I dont like it and thought that the fact that we have been friends for more that 20 years entitles me to say the truth..

I “basayer” my Clients on a daily basis, I “basayer” my family something but I did not think that I need to do so with my best friends as well.. To whom can I say whatever I want if not to my best freinds? Although I do that sometimes.. sometimes I do shut up especially when they are feeling down or pregnant, I do lie and tell them that they look great, but they dont know that I am lying because I dont tell them that I am.. for instance this friend in particular, I used to hate going out with her and her boyfriend (who is not now her husband) because she used to act silly infront of him.. I dont know if its the fact that he is younger that us but she would turn into a stupid silly teenager around him and I never said a word and kept going out with them..

She said that If someone told me something that I dont like I either get mad and cut things off or not say a word and the person would never know what I am thinking as if I create a wall between us. She thinks that I need to communicate in a better way especially with new people..

I never treate people that I dont know badly, maybe if we are in a big group I like to listen more than participate but if someone did talk to me I do talk back.. I dont initiate but I do talk back.. somtimes gossiping and talking about how great their 4 figures dresses or bags are is not somthing that interests me, thats why i stay quiet..

Maybe she is right, but I cant say that I did not get hurt, I do let things go more than they think but they dont know about it because I just dont say it, wouldnt it be aggressive if I did??!!

She thinks that as my friend she needed to tell me and that I if I ever get married I will suffer with my husband and in-laws if I kept doing this.. I dont think I am rude to people and I hate people to think that I am especially by best friends.. Maybe the fact that I just lost my grandmother and the I just got out of a painful operation lowered my tolerance, I dont know.. Maybe she is right, and maybe she is not, but all I can say is that I am hurt right now.. ill try to take more attention and and keep my thoughts to myself and see how it goes..

Leave me out of it…

Being the older sister and the head of my department made me always in control.. It is a very nice feeling especially that I am a Leo which fulfills my ego but sometimes I wish that I can stay out of things..

Sometimes I like to pretend that I have nothing to do with it and that the other person should handle it on his own.. like when an argument happens between my brother and sister, sometimes I just want them to solve it on their own, and when a colleague makes a mistake I wish that he/she can find a solution on their own..

Maybe its not them, maybe its me, maybe i dont know how to delegate, maybe I interfere, but they always get back to me and I am always asked for my opinion..

I wish sometimes that I can throw my problems on someone and ask them to solve it, but I have learned that things cannot be done perfectly unless you do it yourself..

My parents depend on me, my siblings depend on me, and my colleagues depend on me.. If my mother wants to but furniture I have to be there, if my brother or sister wants to go shopping I have to be there, If my father wants to go to a doctor I have to recommend one.. It does give a great feeling and I love being there for them but sometimes, just sometimes, I like it if they leave me out of it.

While I Was Away…

I feel that I havent written anything since forever.. At first I was not in the mood for writing and then I got really busy..

I finally took a vacation on the first of March.. I went to Dubai with my mother to visit my aunt and my other aunt came from Jeddah with my cousin and met us there.. we have a great time.. we visited all the new places including the Mall of Dubai and the Atlantis.. the aquariums were amazing.. I also went to Cirque Du Soleil “Alegria”, it was beautiful.. I loved it…

After that we went back with my aunt to Jeddah.. I have to say I love it.. what would be nicer that living in a country next to Mecca… I made 3omra (il 7amdu lillah) and went to Al Madina as well.. visiting our prophet’s grave and praying there gives a feeling that I cannot describe..

Of course none of that stopped me from doing by favourite kind of workout- SHOPPING.. I am in debt for the next 5 years of my life..

I also did a minor operation in both my feet, I had a problem with both my toes and no one here understood what was wrong.. some told me fungus, others told me I have to live with it, but finally someone got what’s wrong with me but that made me postpone my vacation for another week and live in a painful couple of days.. I just hope its worth it.. ill let you know in 6 months..

and then, on the day before we were supposed to leave, we got some really sad news.. my grandmother passed away… the one person that I love more than my mother left us on mother’s day.. my mother and aunt left on the next flight but I had to wait until the doctor clears me for flying.. i didnt get the chance to tell her goodbye..

This is all I can write for now before I burst into tears.. RIP my beautiful teta.. I will miss you..

Finding your soul mate when its too late…

We have heard so many stories about people cheating or leaving their spouses for someone else..no matter what the circumtances are people start the blaming and the gossiping on the spot..

I am not approving these actions but I have always asked my self what can a person do If he/she  finally finds his/her soulmate but one of them is already in a relationship..

What if  you finally found the person that you have been waiting for, the person who understands you and laughs at your jokes, the person who you can talk to for hours and believe is your soul mate but she is your wife’s best friend or he is your husband’s brother?

I dont think a person should act on these feelings but wouldnt that be unfair to all three parties? and wouldnt that be considered emotional cheating? you cannot let this person out of your life without providing explanations that you can never give… He/she will always be there and I think sooner or later it will affect the relationships between all of you..

I know a person who divorced his wife and married the wife of his brother in law, I also know a person who married her best friend’s husband… Again I am not saying that what they did was right, they ruined 2 families and hurt the kids but I just decided that I should not comment, point at, or blame anymore..

الغنى والفقر

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الفرق بين البلدان الفقيرة والغنية لا يعود إلى قدمها في التاريخ،  فمصر والهند يفوق عمرها 2000 عام وهي فقيرة، أما كندا واستراليا ونيوزيلندا لم تكن موجودة قبل 150 سنة بالرغم من ذلك هي دول متطورة وغنية

ولا يمكن رد فقر او غنى الدول إلى مواردها الطبيعية المتوفرة فلليابان مساحة محدودة ، 80% من اراضيها عبارة عن جبال غير صالحة للزراعة أو لتربية المواشي، ولكنها تمثل ثاني اقوى اقتصاد في العالم، فهي عبارة عن مصنع كبير عائم ، يستورد المواد الخام لإنتاج مواد مصنعة يصدرها لكل أقطار العالم

 مثال آخر هو سويسرا، فبالرغم من عدم زراعتها للكاكاو إلا أنها تنتج أفضل شوكولا في العالم، ومساحتها الصغيرة لا تسمح لها بالزراعة أو بتربية المواشي لأكثر من اربعة أشهر في السنة إلا انها تنتج اهم منتجات الحليب وأغزرها في العالم. إنها بلد صغير ولكن صورة الأمن والنظام والعمل التي تعكسها ، جعلها أقوى خزنة في العالم

 لم يجد المدراء من البلاد الغنية من خلال علاقتهم مع زملائهم من البلدان الفقيرة فروق تميزهم من الناحية العقلية ومن ناحية الإمكانيات عن هؤلاء في البلاد الفقيرة، اللون والعرق لا تأثير لهما، فالمهاجرون المصنفون كسالى في بلادهم الأصلية هم القوة المنتجة في البلاد الأوربية

 أين يكمن الفرق إذا؟؟

 يكمن الفرق في السلوك، المتشكل والمرسخ عبر سنين من التربية والثقافة. عند تحليل سلوك الناس في الدول المتقدمة نجد أن الغالبية يتبعون المبادئ التالية في حياتهم

.الأخلاق كمبدأ اساسي

.الاستقامة

.المسؤولية

 .احترام القانون والنظام

.احترام حقوق باقي المواطنين

حب العمل

.حب الاستثمار والادخار

 .السعي للتفوق والأعمال الخارقة

 .الدقة

 في البلدان الفقيرة لا يتبع هذه المبادئ سوى قلة قليلة من الناس في حياتهم اليومية. لسنا فقراء بسبب نقص في الموارد أو بسبب كون الطبيعة قاسية معنا، نحن فقراء بسبب عيب في السلوك، وبسبب عجزنا للتأقلم مع وتعلم المبادئ الأساسية التي جعلت وأدت إلى تطور المجتمعات وغناها

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My Best Friends…

I have been lazy lately and did not write anything for a while.. I had a lot of things to write about but did not feel like it.. for some reason i woke up this morning wanting to write about my best friends..

the Complainer:  this one is the other blonde in the gang.. she complains about everything.. she is a sweet heart and always wants the best for you (even tough she forces it  on you sometimes) but I know she believes its for the best.. when we arrange for an outing she is always the one that does not like our choice and when we ask her to choose she says that it does not matter she will go anywhere!! she complains about the noise, the food, the service even the lighting of the place!!

She also has this weird habbit of needing to know everyone and who are they related to.. everytime we go to a funeral or a weeding she has to know every single person and why are they at the event (how do they know the bride and groom or the deceast… sometimes she turns to me saying “do you remeber ….. who was in our 8th grade? this guy is married to the sister of her best friend’s cousin”!!!!!! I have no idea how can she know that.. I can hardly  remember the girl in my class.. the only relations that may stick in my mind is siblings and maybe first cousins..

She is also one of the people that believe marriage is everything, and not getting married is not an option… she feels sad for the people who are not married and thats why she does everything she can to get me married..

She is a mother of 2 beautiful boy and girl

The 20 year old: this girl does not want to grow up.. she wants to be young and stay young.. she does not believe in marriage and wanted to stay single her 3 years boyfriend had to force her to marry him!! she likes clubbing, smoking, and dancing and not having any responsibilites, staying up all night and just having fun..

At the same time she is a friend that you can depend on whenever you need her.. she is honest and always tells you the truth even if she knows you will not like it.. if you did something wrong she will pick up the phone and give you a one hour lecture about it..

She found out a couple of days ago that she is pregnant.. she almost fainted.. she is happy and says il 7amdullah but I know what deep down inside she is saying that’s it.. if married did not restrain me this will.. she is scared, a little depressed and not smoking is driving her, her husband and us crazy but I am definate she will be a great mother..

the Sweetheart: she is one of the nicest people you can ever meet.. she goes with the flow, rarely complains, and is always there to listen to you.. she might not give you an answer or tell you what to do but she is there if you need someone to listen.. as much as she is a calm and friendly person she can mean very stubborn and willful sometimes.. she got married 5 years ago to a guy that for some reason did not like us, but she made it clear to him that she cannot do without us, now he is a nice guy and I believe got to like us as well..

She is so sociable she drives us crazy sometimes..everytime she meets new people or even from the past, like 20 years from the past, she plans an outing and forces us to go.. she plans outings with our class mates, the cousins of our friends, the sisters of some other friends, the mothers of the daughter’s friends, and we always have to be there.. 

She is a mother of a lovely 3 year old daughter..

The Single: this girl drives me crazy all the time.. she is dying to get married… she is very cute, educated, has two companies of her own but for some reason scares the guys away.. literally.. they run so fast you can see the smoke behind them.. she is  always looking her best, discussing all the hot subject in town and internationally, gathering a lot of guys around her… nevertheless no one sticks around… she never had an actual boyfriend her whole life.. all her relationships end in less than 2 weeks..

I try to help her, and tell her to concentrate on her life and career but I know that deep down inside getting married is all she wants.. 

The Out of town:  this girl is the closest to me.. she is the first to get married and move to Dubai.. we both studied the same major, took the same classes even shared cars on daily basis.. i felt really sad when she moved..

Despite the distance she has always been there for me.. you can call her anytime day or night and she will pick up and listen to your whining.. she is always laughing and taking things easy, you can be yourself around her and talk to her about any silly thing you feel like talking about..

She is a mother of a young 5 years old guy and having her second this weekend inshalla..

I have known my friends for the last 19 years… people said that university will drift you apart… people said marriage will drift you apart.. people said time will drift you apart.. and il 7amdu lillah nothing did.. they drive me crazy sometimes, they are not perfect, but I love them just the way they are…

Jews in America…

I have received an email with the following pictures.. I am not so sure about them but I wanted to share..