How do you know that this person is the one? how do you know when to give it a try?
Is it true that you know from the first time you meet? Of course going ahead with it does not mean its going to work o utbut I mean if you met someone and you felt nothing what so ever, should you try and give him a chance?
A friend of mine asked me for advice and I did not know what to tell her.. She went out on a blinde date a couple of days ago, and when I asked her what she felt she said she had no idea… He seems to be a nice decent guy but she did not like him or hate him.. She is not too excited about their next date but she is not hating it as well..
He did seem to be a decent guy and decent guys are rare to find… So should she give it a chance? He and his family live in the states and are never coming back to Amman.. she adores Amman so how can she know that he is worth leaving her family and her country? will that come in time? I have to idea..
I remeber a friend who asked me once why I broke up with my ex.. I told her why so then she asked “did you love him?” and when I answered that we havent been together for long so i dont know.. she said then it wouldnt have worked out.. you know immediatley..
Is it true?
I know that every guy is different, but what kind of a guy should you be looking for?
Should a girl follow her heart and pick the guy who immediatly swept her off her feet, or should she pick up the guy that would do anything for her even if she only likes him and does not love him? Is it true that his goodness would make her fall in live with him eventually???!!
I had no idea what to tell her because I myself do not know..
Help us out…
its just for ladies ??
I’m not married, but anyway, I believe you never know anything for sure. She only met the guy once, and when people first meet new people they try their best to give out a good impression of themselves, so on a first date almost everybody’ll same decent, and even if he turned out to be in fact decent, then that doesn’t mean that she should force herself to like him, there are a lot of decent people out there you know, you can’t just get married to the first decent person you meet, decency alone isn’t something you base a life-long decision upon, if it’s marriage she’s looking for then tell her that she should give him a chance, if he turns out to be a good person then she gained a friend, or an acquaintance, if with time she feels that he’s the one whose sight she’d like to wake-up every morning to, and that he’s the one she wants to see at the end of every tiring day before she falls asleep then she should give romance a shot with him. Eventually, no matter what you tell her she’s the only one who would be able to tell if he’s the one, if he’s the one then she’d happily leave the whole world behind to be with him, she’d realize that she can’t stand living a day without him, not the other way around, feeling that can live with him for the rest of her life isn’t enough, I can live with a friend of mine for the rest of my life, I CAN, but I can also very easily live without that friend. Just tell her that she shouldn’t settle for less than she deserves.
Qabbani: if you have something to say about this please do 🙂
Khouloud: thanks a lot for your comment, i can see where you are coming from but the problem with the long dinstace relationships is that its not easy to know for sure, do you know what I mean? He only has like a week vacation every 4- 6 months and I really dont believe that you can know a person and if he is the one online or by phone.. sometimes people are in the same country and see each other on a daily basis and yet it takes them a long time to realize that they have made a wrong choice, so not seeing them for months could be a disaster.. well this is what I believe but as you said she is the one who should know..
That’s absolutely correct, but there are cases of long distance relationships that worked out wonderfully, il nas ma beejou ma3 warranties, they might get along for 50 years and suddenly realize they made the wrong choice and decide to get divorced, why is she in a rush to know if he’s the one or not? I believe she shouldn’t rush it, eventually she’ll know. I just noticed that my former comment is longer than your original post hehe 😀
Please feel free to write whatever you want and as long as you want .. i really appreciate it 🙂
Hi princess.
I’m not married, but I can tell from my humble experience that you can never know as I really think that nothing in life is certain and final. Everything changes…people, feelings…etc..
but generally speaking every girl has a list of the things she’s looking for and the priorities she wants in a guy…let her give a chance…if the guy meets those things and of course with having feelings included then why not…let her live the experience and take the chance…u can never know unless u try 🙂
I met many guys the traditional way. With some I was able to tell right away that I don’t want to give a second chance or see them again, with others I was neutral so I went for another chances until I finally decided that non of them was “the one”
In the last couple of years, my views towards life, relationships and love between a man and a woman changed a lot.
I realized that the butterflies in our stomachs, the want to spend as much time as possible with him, the longing for his voice, laughs and smell is not what love is all about after all!..
i met a guy before sometime and everything was amazing and going perfect at the beginning and of course I though I was in deep love until the first problem took place between us (that was after 4 months of knowing him), then I started to open my eyes and admit his mistakes and the things I hate about him, at that point I asked myself do I really love this guy or do I love the attention and the feelings he gave me, the nice times we spent together and all this…?
When real life issues took place, when I started dealing with real differences and problems. When I stopped being the dreamy little hopeless romantic and started to put things in their real frame. When after all the issues that took place between us and after doing all the calculations in my head I still realized that yes I want to spend my life with this person and when putting 7asanato and saye2ato bi kafteen el meezan then 7asanato still bterja7 and I felt I can still deal with the negative things (as no one is perfect after all)
when I realized all this with myself only then I knew that I really love this guy and things between us are deep and were not just a crush that I could get over easily..
of course all this has to be from both sides…love is a 2 way street after all….if u r willing to do all the compromise and sacrifice and he’s doing nothing then it’s not worth it of course…
she needs to go through the experience to realize if he’s worth it or not…just ask her not to rush in giving her final word…let her know him for enough time first
i hope that helped..
hmm… actually i dont know what to say because i am a guy.. but i’ll tell you that when you meet a decent guy, you should keep seeing him because most of the gus are jackasses these days!!
Oriental Arabesque: thanks a lot for your comment, i do agree with you in some points and I know that butterflies are not what it is all about.. but is it the start? I mean do you give the chance to someone who does give you the butterflies and see if he is worth it or not and not even bother to the guy who you feel nothing with? do you understand what I mean?
should she give a chance for someone who she only met once and work on a long distance relationship?
The problem with the long distance relationship is that you never really know how they are.. you dont know anything about their day to day activities, his relationship with his friends and family, this shows you a lot of things and when you are hundreds of miles away you are just counting on your luck..
Anyway I really thank you for your comment, it did help 🙂
Maher: I could ask you to tell us how do guys know when to give a girl a chance but i think we all know what grabs your attention to a girl first 😉
And I am really impresses that you admit that guys are jackasses, not all of them of course but at least the guys that I meet 🙂
Thanks for your comment..
long distance relationships are hard…it’s more like a big gamble…personally i wouldn’t go for one..cause relationships are a gamble in the 1st place…a long distance one is a much more risky gamble 🙂