About friendship…

I beleive that you are born having the family that you have and you cant change anything about it, but through life you get to pick your friends, so why do you keep friends that you don’t like?

I have this friend that I have known for more than 15 years, we were never too close until we worked together for the same company, and then I found out that I cannot stand her.

She likes to be the center of attention, and I am fine with that.. she likes to know everyone and everything about everyone while I don’t really care.. All she wanted was to be our boss’s right hand, and when she came to me for help on some of the matters that she did not know how to do, I used to help her even if she told our boss that she did it..

But then she decided that she wanted to have a part in my personal life as well, and no matter how close my friend is I would never allow them to intrude on my personal life unless I want them to..

I was going out with a guy that lived in Dubai, when she went for a business trip there, and when she called him to go out for coffee I couldn’t say anything as he was our friend before I started seeing him.. but when she came back she asked all my girlfriends to come over and told them that he told her that he does not like me and that there is nothing serious between us and that I might have misunderstood him..

Although I blamed her for not coming to me and telling my friends instead I never thought she might be lying so I immediately broke up with him.. with time I have noticed that she keeps talking to him and chatting with him on MSN, and each time I enter her office she minimizes the screen but I know that its him, and what made it worse is when my ex called and told me what she said about me.

I decided to quit my job and kick her out of my life, and I did.. I got myself a new job and tried my best not to attend the gatherings that she might be in.. I was shocked when she called me one day and asked to go out for coffee.. she started crying and telling me how much she misses me and misses our friendship and then started telling me how she was misunderstood by another friend who thought that she was interfering between her and her fiancé.. really? Strange !!

I am not sure if she wants to “steel” the guys that we have but she likes to be noticed.. She opened her own business and I tried helping her out by introducing her to my company and getting her some clients, so what did she do? She took the mobile number of my boss, added him to her MSN and facebook lists and keeps calling him whenever she needs anything from us.. the is not my BF and is a happily married man and yet she wanted to be noticed by him as well..  

I feel sorry for her but she keeps on driving me crazy and when I confront her she says she does not mean any harm, she is a friendly person and does mind if others treated her the same way… this is how she is..  She is my friend and the worst thing is when people look at me and say “do you know what your friend did?” “kol li man tusa7eb akool lak man ant” and I don’t what people to think that I am like her..