I was watching a movie the other day about a girl who breaks up with her boyfriend due to pressure from her family and finds that the only way to forget him is to leave the country and work abroad..
From my own experience I knew that no matter how far or how long she traveled everything will come back to her the minute she comes back.. I thought this will help me once…
When I knew that my relationship is finally over after 5 years, I thought that the only way I can get over it is to leave the county… and that’s what I did.. I left to the other side of the world and stayed there for months..
After some time of working, shopping, dancing and having fun with new friends I thought I was really over it and it was time for me to go home… I was wrong..
The minute I saw Amman from the sky I remembered him, the minute I inhaled its air I remembered him, the minute I drove in its streets I knew I was lying to myself.. I was not over him..
Time made me realize that its better to stay and fight it.. fight it till you are over it and do not run away.. you need to walk the streets that you two used to walk together and understand that this will never happen again, you need to keep your mobile open understanding that he does know your number and he can call you but he wont, you need to hear his name from the people who are in common between you and not react, this and only this is what did it for me.. running away didnt..
This is something that I learned and I use in my life in general.. Running away does not help, it does not let the problem go away, it just hides it until you come back..
Face it, fight it, be in peace with it, and let it go…
I agree….you have to face reality….go through the fighting phase where you grieve and go thru alot of pain however hard it may be…accept it all and move on eventually. Ofcourse these phases might take a very long time and they might overlap and u mite think u r in peace for smtime and then ur whole world breaks down and u go bak to fighting and so on.
When you run away as u said it will probably all come rushing back. It might help to get away for a while (as opposed to running away to a different place or even running away emotionally as well by just pushing the whole breakup to the back of yr mind and busying yrself with other things), probably for the facing it phase…it helps to not walk the same streets, go to the same placed and mingle with the common friends for a while…but yes u have to make the painful walk down that street alone.
I agree….you have to face reality….go through the fighting phase where you grieve and go thru alot of pain however hard it may be…accept it all and move on eventually. Ofcourse these phases might take a very long time and they might overlap and u mite think u r in peace for smtime and then ur whole world breaks down and u go bak to fighting and so on.
When you run away as u said it will probably all come rushing back. It might help to get away for a while (as opposed to running away to a different place or even running away emotionally as well by just pushing the whole breakup to the back of yr mind and busying yrself with other things), probably for the facing it phase…it helps to not walk the same streets, go to the same placed and mingle with the common friends for a while…but yes u have to make the painful walk down that street alone sooner or later.
Secret Window: This is exactly what I am trying to say.. welcome to my blog 🙂
Is it the movie of Kate Winslet (in Morocco) u were watching? Well, what u said, and probably believe, is ONE way of seeing things. Getting away is a good choice many ppl wish they had. First, the conclusion u drew should’ve led u a greater revelation that our problems dwell more in our silly heads than anywhere else. Second, u may not have recognized it yet, but breaking away for a while make u see things from different angles. Always count your blessings. And if u think u lost a pair of shoes, as the saying goes, think of those who lost a foot!
Yaak: I am not sure what they movie’s names is, I only watched it for half an hour and didnt catch the name.. but it wasnt Kate Winslet..
You are right, no matter what, we have to count our blessings.. thanks for your comment and welcome to my blog 🙂