We have heard so many stories about people cheating or leaving their spouses for someone else..no matter what the circumtances are people start the blaming and the gossiping on the spot..
I am not approving these actions but I have always asked my self what can a person do If he/she finally finds his/her soulmate but one of them is already in a relationship..
What if you finally found the person that you have been waiting for, the person who understands you and laughs at your jokes, the person who you can talk to for hours and believe is your soul mate but she is your wife’s best friend or he is your husband’s brother?
I dont think a person should act on these feelings but wouldnt that be unfair to all three parties? and wouldnt that be considered emotional cheating? you cannot let this person out of your life without providing explanations that you can never give… He/she will always be there and I think sooner or later it will affect the relationships between all of you..
I know a person who divorced his wife and married the wife of his brother in law, I also know a person who married her best friend’s husband… Again I am not saying that what they did was right, they ruined 2 families and hurt the kids but I just decided that I should not comment, point at, or blame anymore..
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Here comes a grey area, where i cant decide what is right and what is wrong. in our society we are raised on certain set of rules which we need to “respect”
However, you mentioned something about emotional cheating, if you look at it away from the culture and society.
it is not right to live with someone while you are thinking of another, or having feelings for someone else, i even find it harder and more difficult to deal with more than the physical cheating.
but coming back to our culture, we are raised to sacrifice and compromise for the sake of the family and ofcourse we cannot deny that we are always scared of what people would say and the reputation whatever.
that is why it is stays grey..no clear right and no clear wrong
but we can stop judging because afterall you never know when one of us will be in a similar situation!
Free Whispers: you are absolutely right. we have to think shall we think about the others happiness even if it meant staying in a relationship that we are not happy being in, or shall we stay for the same of the kids, family, or society and live miserable!
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انا بحكي انه الواحد يرضى ب نصيبه لانه بالاخير في الخير اله
و ما يتفرج ل هاي الاشياء لانه برجع ب تفكيره ل ورا بدل ما يتقدم ل قدام
مرات بتخيل الي هيك بكون عن جد ناس مو قنوعين او انه بحبو يخربو حياتهم ب ايدهم
الحياه ما بتتوقف انه الاقي شريك روحي في اشياء كتير اعظم من هالشغلة لانه بالاصل مشاغل الحياه و وجود الاطفال بعد فترة بتخلي اشايء معينه بين الزوجين تضل و تقوى متل الاحترام و القناعة و بناء مستقبلهم و مستقبل اولادهم مع بعض يعني انهم يلاقوا اشياء مشتركة مع بعض و بعدين بصيروا تلقائيا يحسوا انهم شريكين بالارواح كمان
الحياه اكبر من انه احس انه شريك روحي الي بحكي معه ساعات و ما بزهق
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المزاج ممكن يغير من تفكير الانسان و لو للحظة
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This is a difficult one. It hits somewhat close to home as I feel the person who is my soulmate is currently married. It is a marriage with ups and downs and we talk about our feelings for each other. I do not know her husband and I was her friend first. Neither of us has pulled the trigger and commenced a fullblown relationship for many reasons. Sometimes I think it is wrong to feel the way I feel and best to move on at the same time I question why cannot I and my friend be happy together? As I mentioned above, tough one.
Entertainer: It is difficult.. I really feel bad for you.. I wrote this post thinking what would I do, I did think someone who has been through it would read it..
I wish I can help but I really dont know what would I do If I were in your shoes..
Good Luck..
I just read the above blog because somehow, for some reason, I just found out my soulmate was my next door neighbor of 10 years. I know, totally bizzare. I am married for 20 years-same for him. All 4 of us have been great friends for all this time, then last friday night, both spouses have been out of town, we kissed and have spent the last few days together until my husband came back wed. I always had a friend love for him, but since we having been intimate (no sex though), kissing, tallking, gazing, touching, holding….I am in complete misery and absolutely wish these feelings for no one. I wish we did not spend all this intimate closeness together because things were fine before all this. We know deep in our hearts of our love and have already said this to one another. I have so much going on in my life, I just can’t leave my spouse and say…see ya? I was googling soulmate and found your blog. I am a sweet kind natured person and considered myself somewhat wise and intelligent. But let me tell you, there is this one particular chemistry and passion that will complete you entirely with every fiber of your being so fierce it will fuse your soul together and nothing you can do will stop it…it just happens (if you are lucky enough). So I’m happy it happened, but then again I am not……I am sickened with blissfulness and it’s not a good feeling. I honestly had NO IDEA this stuff really existed in the world…..I am at a loss
To everyone out there who has found their soul mate, but cant’ be with them…..there is nothing like finding that person who just ‘fuels you’, I describe it as finding that ‘piece of your puzzle’ that just fits so perfectly, you had no real idea before that it was missing. I found my ‘puzzle piece’, unexpectedly and it’s been the ride of my life ever since we met. I’ve been married for 16 years, but my husband is not my soul mate. Some people don’t believe that we change, but as we grow older we experience things, expose ourselves to different situations and these experiences shape us, send us down different paths all the while altering our thoughts, outlooks and wants. This is what has happened to me. I have always been a very outgoing person, energetic, fun, adventurous & spontaneous, but overtime, after being married, that faded. Now it’s back and I LOVE being ME again! It’s so uplifting and I walk tall again with shoulders back feeling proud of who I am and thinking of the next adventure that could come my way. Then I make them happen. My soul mate thinks the same way, acts the same way and leads his life with such passion that it fuels me to be a better me. We just click, we laugh, love, experience life together when we can, have the same desires, push each other to the limits and just ‘live life to it’s fullest’….the energy from the 2 of us together is just crazy!!! So, the big question….when 2 people find their puzzle piece, their soul mate, should they make it happen and be together and be truly happy? Even when others are involved, such as husbands/wives? It’s a difficult one to answer because we don’t ever want to hurt others….but we all deserve to be truly, deeply happy and live life to it’s fullest with the person that brings out the best in you. To conclude my dilemma….I can’t be with my soul mate right now, we both know that…does it stop us from taking opportunities here and there to be with each other, no it doesn’t. We are so drawn to one another it’s unstoppable. Time will tell, it always does. But I do know this…I would hate to come to the end of my life, knowing I didn’t spend time with him or if all goes well, actually living day to day with him as we head out on adventures, travel, experience life together….because that would be a huge loss for both of us.
Wow…This is amazing. It’s as if you took the words from me. I would love to email you directly and see where you guys are now in your journey.
sammie: I really dont know what to say.. I am very touched with your story.. sometimes things happen for no reason.. you dont mean for it to happen and you dont know why it happened.. and when it does happen, it may ruin a lot of things..
unfortunately I cant give you any advice as I dont know all parties and i am actually not so great at that, but I think that since you are not going to act on it maybe one of you should move.. being close wont help and eventually one or both of your spouses will feel the vibes between you two… you cannot hide it forever.. and this might ruin both families.. If you both are happily married, then maybe you should try to move on but I dont think its doable if you stay neighbors especially if both your spouses keep traveling..
I am sorry for all the pain that you are suffering and I hope you will be able to find the best solution whether its leaving everything behind and following your heart or staying with your lovely family of 20 years.. all i can say is since that this is all recent give it some thought cause it may be just a phase..
God be with you..